Bite Your Tongues, Parents by Awesomely Awake
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Question of the Day — What was one thing someone said to you in your childhood or younger days that still stings when you think about it?
I still remember sitting in the driveway, sobbing.
My 8-year-old body shivering with hurt.
“My, you’ve put on some weight, haven’t you?” they said.
Those words said by a relative stung and stabbed and lived in my memory from that day forward.
I never looked at myself the same again.
I avoided mirrors. I hid myself with baggy clothes. I began spending more time in my room.
Now, I am absolutely obssessed with making sure that never happens to my daughters.
Of course, I will fail because people do not think, they do not mind their words, they do not understand the hurt they cause so casually.
At the end of the day, here’s what I know to be true:
What we say and how we say it matters.
We also have to monitor what others are saying to our kids and stand up for our children when we hear it.
Courage, in other words.
And, in the wise words of Ghandi, “We must be the change we wish to see in the world.”
We cannot control what our relatives or the kids at school or even their friends will say but we can watch our own words. We can be aware and intentional about what we say and how we model minding our words.
6 Ways to Watch Your Words with Kids:
ABOUT SHAWN: Shawn Ledington Fink is the author of The Playful Family and the Thinking Mama behind the Awesomely Awake who is changing the world — one family at a time. She is a peace and kindness spreader and offers an e-course called The Abundant Mama Project that leads women into a daily gratitude practice.
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