Comments on: The Language of Family by Rebeccas Hawkes of Love is Not a Pie

By: Pamela R

Pamela R — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 23:21:57 +0000

This is such a lovely post–I’m glad you could become that close–I’ve got family that have done foster care for 25 years and sadly not all cases can be as joyful as yours. You last sentence of this post is really beautiful!!

By: Carla Barilá Karam

Carla Barilá Karam — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 21:37:45 +0000

Kathy what a great article!! Rebecca… you are so blessed!! Thank you for sharing a part of your life with me. Thank you!! Ashley is blessed to call you mommy, and her bio-mama is just as blessed to have you in her life!! God has truly blessed you in more ways than one… He gave you lots of love to spread around!!

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 20:14:08 +0000

what a lovely story and what a wonderful human being you are! my sister is adopted, she is my sister but technically she is something like my 3rd cousin, my mother, technically her second cousin. . .i think. in the end it’s neither here nor there because she is my sister. family can be so many different things but it’s really about the love and commitment, the relationships are up to us to define however we want. maybe what we need these days is less words, just call everyone in our family (be it technical or of the heart) : )

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 19:42:41 +0000

What a great story! I couldn’t figure it out for the first couple of paragraphs! What a wonderful surprise ending!

By: Leigh @oneandoneequalstwinfun.com

Leigh @oneandoneequalstwinfun.com — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 18:55:32 +0000

Great post – very thought provoking. I love that the two moms have started an organization together to promote open adoption. Unfortuantely we all know a story about someone adopting a child and then the child being returned to the birth parent. This makes many a little wary. But I am glad you are shining the light on other possibilities.
Leigh

By: Wendy

Wendy — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 17:59:18 +0000

What a beautiful story! I am constantly struck with the realization that families today don’t look the same and each have their own love story. Thanks so much for sharing yours! Blessings!

By: Monika

Monika — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 14:29:28 +0000

Those of us who live “unusual” definitions of family know that we need no words to describe the love we have for one another. However to people who don’t live the situation with us, it seems we need those words to catch up. Hopefully they will someday. I have a good word for your situation though: love. <3

By: Thorn

Thorn — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 10:45:27 +0000

Mara’s sister, who’s 6, decided that “stepmother” is the best word for me, her sister’s adoptive mom, because I’d said I was sort of like an aunt and aunts raise cousins, except of course the aunt who’s raising her with most of Mara’s other siblings. The words are not sufficient, but that doesn’t stop the people involved from loving or understanding, despite what outsiders suspect.

By: Kathy Radigan

Kathy Radigan — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 09:33:22 +0000

Rebecca thank you for sharing your beautiful story with us. You had me in tears. I’m so happy for you and your family.