6 Ways My Second Unborn Child is Already Getting Shafted

Now, pregnant with MY second child, I’m starting to see her point.

Huge Announcements
With first babies, couples tend to get all creative when announcing their pregnancies. Some film cute YouTube videos,  write songs, have creative photo shoots, send elegant cards by mail, or surprise their friends and families. They post ultrasound photos on Facebook and watch as hundreds of “likes” and comments pour in. 

But with the second child . . . not so much. I kept “forgetting” to tell people I was pregnant. I was too busy trying not to throw up on my tantruming toddler to do anything creative.

Due Dates and “How far along are you?”
With first babies, you sign up for  weekly emails telling you what size you baby is compared to a piece of fruit. You read  What to Expect When Expecting and know the next prenatal test you’re scheduled to have, and if your babe’s fingernails have developed yet. 

With the second, I keep forgetting my due date. It’s sometime in late July. I know now that it doesn’t matter – babies come when they are ready. I can only plan as far ahead as Parent’s Day at my son’s school next Wednesday. Or is is Thursday? I’ll think about that after I cleanup the mountain of Lego I keep stepping on while having a conference call from home.

People keep asking me how far along I am. I don’t know . . . I can’t remember anymore. With my first, I’d proudly answer, “25 weeks and 3 days!” With this one, I’m like, “Far enough along not to be able to button my pants but not far along enough to have dug the breast pump out of the attic.”

Nursery Design
With first babies, moms‐to‐be go Pinterest-happy planning their nurseries. They have a special themed room all set up for the baby weeks in advance.

The second time around, I know the newborn will be spending the first few months of his life in a co‐sleeper next to my bed so I can drowsily feed him in the night with the least amount of effort necessary. So no rush on the nursery.

Adorable Clothes and New Gear
With first babies, moms take time to research the latest and greatest in baby gear. They register at several stores so that their friends and family can shower gifts upon them. They eschew used gear for safety reasons and plan their car seat colors to match their stroller.